I hope that caught your attention.
Over the past few days, I have become increasingly irked by the posts of a friend of mine decrying the institution of marriage as a sacred covenant between man and wife. I'm not upset with him because of his assertion that gays should have rights; that's another issue altogether. I am, however, very disappointed in the route he has taken in an attempt to make me feel as though my marriage is outdated. One of the issues he focused on was Ephesians 5:22, which reads: "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord." What most people think of when they hear this passage is not of submission, but subservience.
For example, because of my faith, I believe in the power of the priesthood which my husband holds. This priesthood power entitles him to revelation for our family concerning spiritual and temporal matters, and I am fully prepared to accept his counsel in such things after we have taken time to pray together. I am submitting to the will of my husband only after he has submitted to the will of our Heavenly Father. However, if I come home exhausted after working a 16-hour day, and the first thing he does when I walk though the door is to ask me to make him dinner a la June Cleaver, I'm going to have a little problem with that. And it's not going to happen.
The opposite of submission is not progress. It's not even equality. It's contention. I know from experience that when I am being contentious, Chris is suddenly no longer my best friend with whom I want to spend eternity. He becomes my sparring partner, and the words I hurl at him don't make me feel powerful. They make me feel weak and small-minded. If I have let myself become upset to the point of contention, it's because I haven't communicated well. Instead, I've assumed that he won't listen or doesn't understand. I haven't even given him the benefit of hearing what I have to say.
Let's look at the husband's role in all of this. Ephesians 5:25 says "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church and gave himself for it." So...your husband is to love you so completely that he would lay down his life for you if necessary. In return, you are to respect the priesthood which he holds (if he does), respect his walk with the Lord and his ability to receive revelation from the Holy Spirit, and counsel with him on those matters. It doesn't make you less of a woman to respect your husband. He is, after all, the man you love, the one you have chosen to spend at least this life. He should be your best friend. Be sweet. Be kind. And if your husband loves you as he should, there is nothing he won't do for you.